Last month I talked about where to find singles. Next, what’s the plan to meet those great singles?
 
A plan? Isn’t that a four letter word? Shouldn’t romance just happen? Or if I really want to meet someone shouldn’t I be out looking every free moment?
 
The key to having success in your dating life is get into smart action. Making a plan that you can, and will, commit to gets you into action. Not – to think about getting out, waiting until a friend is available to go with you, or when you’re feeling “in the mood”. And you don’t want frantically engage in a frenzy of activities desperately looking for that special someone. This often leaves us tired, burnt out and staying home once again. Meeting someone should be part of your life – but not your whole life.
 
Look at your life and see what is a realistic number of events or places that you can commit to going to each month. If you do more than that number – terrific! They key is to commit to the minimum that you will do. It’s a plan that fits in with your activities with friends, family and just the activities of living life (cleaning the house, grocery shopping, and all those fun activities that we still need to get done). Then look at places, events, every day life that you think the type of person you will meet would go. (Remember – not where you want to go – but the type of person you want to meet would go. I love shoe sales but not a great place to meet single men. That’s what girlfriends are for). Finally – write those events on your calendar and go.

Joann Cohen,

Phoenix Dating Coach