Have You Wondered – Are Your Text Messages Scaring Her Away?
Your text messages can increase her attraction to you or repel her as quickly as having a piece of spinach between your teeth. Are you are texting and she isn’t responding or responding with very short answers? You may be making some common text message mistakes.
As The Phoenix Matchmaker, I hear what women are really feeling about what men do, including text messaging. They will tell you – they are too busy; see you as a friend; or just don’t feel the chemistry, excuses you may often hear. But those are usually not the real reasons she is not texting you. Keep reading. Find out – Are Your Text Messages Scaring Her Away?
Text Mistake 1: You Wait Too Long
You’ve read on some dating message board that you should wait 3 days before texting her to show you’ve got a life and she’s not the only woman out there, etc. I am not sure who wrote that rule. Or who thinks it will work, but let’s do a little bit of reality checking.
You got her number so you know she wants to go out with you. Maybe. The harsh reality is women give out their numbers for a variety of reasons – including just trying to get rid of you. Don’t be thinking, planning or wasting your time if she isn’t interested in you.
And if she is interested in you, chances are that you are not the only man texting her. If you wait too long, she may forget who you are or move onto someone else. Don’t wait to text her.
Text Mistake 2: You’re Boring Her
You use the same old texts that she gets from most guys. “How’s Your Day?” “You’re a cutie.” You aren’t like all the other guys. Don’t act like them by sending the same text messages that every guy sends. Your text messages should create a feeling within her that she wants to hear more from YOU. And a text “What did you do last night?” isn’t creating any feeling but boredom.
Text Mistake 3: You immediately start sexting her
Yes, she gave you her phone number – which is not saying she wants to go to bed with you or even date you. Sexting what parts of her body you like, what you want to do to her or asking to “hang out” at the last minute screams playe. Not the message you want to send. And sexting includes “sexy” photos.
If you just met her – don’t ask her and don’t send sexy photos. Women know that you want to take them to bed. But don’t rush from phone number to the bed. It will be a turn off to the woman you want to be your girlfriend (I’m assuming that’s why you read my blogs….). You don’t want to be “that guy” who is just a player.
Text Mistake 4: You Aren’t Funny
As a Phoenix Matchmaker I meet dozens of beautiful women every month. They share with me what they really want in a man. And humor is on the top of women’s lists. If you can make her laugh, you are going to be the man she wants to see. Humor is the top secret ingredient that makes men attractive to women.
And the good news is everyone has a sense of humor. So don’t be afraid to show some of yours. Your text messages should be funny, tease her without being mean or falling into the clown zone. Because the clown zone is making mistake number 5…..
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Text Mistake 5: You Sound Desperate
Your text messages sound needy. You are over complimenting.You are LOLing at every funny remark. Every text is a joke (which gets boring after a few). You continually text but never ask her out.
Desperation is a bucket of water over killing any flame of desire she has for you. When men sounds desperate and needy, women put them into the friend zone. And unfortunately the friend zone is difficult to escape once you’re put there. Women take friends shopping, never to bed.
If it’s done well texting can build attraction but done wrong it can do have the opposite effect. Avoid these basic texting mistakes by creating texts that are timely, funny, and part of your plan to get to know her.
Remember humor and confidence are the top ways to build attraction with women. Don’t wimp out on lame texts instead show your funny and confident side and get the date you want.
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