Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Finding Mr. RightThe Do Nothing Mistake He’s gorgeous. He’s smiling. And he’s not wearing a wedding band. So what do many women do? Sit there, doing nothing, expecting the guy to approach. Chances of him coming over are highly unlikely unless you signal you’re open to meeting him. Try looking over at him, smiling, looking away and looking back. That’s it. He’s going to “get” that you’re interested and make the next move. The Routine Mistake One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. Women fall into a routine all the time, heading to the same online dating site, the same night spots, the same events with friends – the same places they never seem to find the right guy. Break out of your routine and try new things, a surefire way to get new results. The Fairy Tale Mistake Remember that joke about Mr. Right not showing up magically on your doorstep? Some women actually believe the Hollywood and fairy tale hype that says your prince will indeed suddenly appear. That doesn’t happen in real life. Even movie stars who play in the Hollywood romantic leagues end up getting divorced and staying single. The Fear of Pain Mistake People’s fear of pain outweighs their desire for pleasure. That means many women avoid any romantic scenario that has even an inkling of creating pain, which is pretty much all of them. What if you show interest in someone and he doesn’t respond? What if you have a bad first date? What he never calls again? What if he ends up running off to Tahiti with your best friend while you’re stuck back in Glendale? You can make up potentially painful scenarios all you want, as long as you’re happy with the pain holding you back. Tip the scales to the positive side and you may be able to allow the desire for the pleasure of meeting a great guy to outweigh your fear of pain. Now that you’re aware of the biggest mistakes women make in finding Mr. Right, your goal is to ensure they don’t become your mistakes. Be open, be available, be friendly, be bold – and for goodness sake be willing to get out of your same-old routine. Mr. Right may still not show up magically at your doorstep, but at least you’ll know how to increase your chances of finding him and letting him know you exist. And remember to discover more about what to do BEFORE you meet men.
Joann Cohen The Phoenix Matchmaker for Phoenix Singles Scottsdale Singles and Singles everywhere in the Phoenix Area