Great Flirting Openers?
Of course they aren’t:
“Is it hot in here or is it just you?”
“If I told you, you have a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?”
Not only do these cheesy flirting openers lines not work – they often have the opposite effect – turning off the person we want to impress.
So what does work?
When we first say something to an attractive stranger, we really saying “I want to talk to you, do you want to talk to me?” Now, just saying that is not a great flirting opener.
A great flirting opener is easy. You talk about everyday things; the current situation; or something about the other person (no, not their legs – no matter how great you think they are!). How about talking about how long the grocery line is, the dog she is walking, what is the drink he has, the sport team sweatshirt she is wearing- you get it – the every day things.
I have used great flirting openers in a grocery line to talk about the frozen pizza a man was buying. In a bookstore I made a comment about a book title. And on the street approaching beautiful women (who I might think might be a good fit for my matchmaking database) making a comment about their shoes or dress.
A great flirting opener is easy. And we can make it over difficult by over thinking about what to say. And what you say is not what makes someone attracted to you!
Research shows that what we actually say is only 6% of making a good first impression. The rest is body language and how we speak (not what we say). So if we have the right body language, speak the right pace, tone, and volume, then what we actually say is the icing on the cake.
So stick to being genuine and you will have great flirting openers.
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