With the rise of technology, there’s no denying the dating scene is changing. In today’s day and age, you can literally find love at your fingertips – and while dating apps and online courtship has its advantages, there’s nothing wrong with incorporating a more traditional approach as well. Speed dating in Phoenix, for example, is a dating practice that been around for a long time. To all the singles reading this, keep in mind this advice can be used for speed dating anywhere.
Ask yourself: During a typical week, how many new people do you meet? If you’re like the vast majority, the answer is probably slim to none. Unless you have the type of job where you travel and network on a regular basis, most of us have a similar routine and see the same faces day in and day out.
If you’re looking to meet new people, but feel like you can’t find time in your schedule, speed dating in Phoenix is a great opportunity to socialize and practice your dating skills.
Are you a woman new to the dating scene? Don’t worry, speed dating events are a wonderful way to dip your toe in.
Are you a man who is anxious talking to women? Even if you tend to get nervous, this is a safe environment to practice thinking on your feet.
How Speed Dating Works
While there are slight variations in venues, nearly all speed dating events involve a rotation format. Every five to eight minutes, you move from one participant to the next. All about efficiency, this type of dating allows you to meet many people in a short period of time. On average, you will typically meet between 6 and 12 other singles.
At the end of the event, participants fill out a form to note who they want to see again. Event planners match those who express a mutual interest and facilitate an exchange of contact information.
That being said, speed dating is not a one-size-fits-all approach. If you’re contemplating whether speed dating is for you, here are some of the pros and cons.
The Pros
Good way to practice
First dates can be nerve-wracking. You stand in front of the mirror after trying on ten different outfits. Your heart begins to race and you think to yourself, Oh no, it’s been so long since I’ve been on a date. What if it’s awkward? I hope he finds me attractive. I hope we hit it off.
Do you know the real reason so many people are anxious during first dates? They are so worried about impressing their date and put the spotlight on themselves. They don’t stop to ask themselves, “Do I actually like this person?”
Although it seems counterintuitive, the secret to making a great first impression is to stop trying so hard to impress. Instead, focus more on getting to know the other person. People love to talk about things that interest them, and as soon as they say something you can relate to, then you can chime in. With this approach, you are more likely to create meaningful connections.
Efficient
Speed dating is centered around the concept that dating is a numbers game. And in this game speed is of the essence. The more people you meet, the higher your chances of finding that special someone. Attending a speed dating event puts you in an environment where you meet a large number of single people in a short period of time.
Nothing is worse than going on a bad date, a date that feels like it’s dragging on forever. You’ve been coming up your escape plan since you arrived and counting down the minutes until it’s over. With speed dating, on the other hand, you get to escape quickly if there’s no connection. No hurt feelings, on to the next one!
Phoenix Speed Dating
Safe and fun environment
Speed dating in Phoenix often takes place at a club or bar – the type of social setting to help you feel relaxed and comfortable. When you arrive, you will get a name tag and all the details are handled for you so there’s no need to worry about where to sit, who to talk to, or anything along those lines.
At these events you’re able to enjoy a fun night out with friends (yes, you can bring friends!) and have the added benefit of knowing you’re surrounded by singles. Unlike a typical night out, you don’t have to worry about sorting through those who are married and unavailable.
Since everyone has the same agenda, this enables you to skip past the awkward pick-up lines and get straight to the point.
The Cons
Not specialized
The majority of speed dating events are focused on age and location. As we all know, when it comes to dating, there are many other factors that come into play: interests, religious beliefs, views on marriage and children, and so on.
Matchmaking, on the other hand, is more personalized. I match people based on my individual meetings with the goal of introducing people who are more compatible. Sourcing men and women at events is needed, it’s not enough in today’s world. As a matchmaker, I understand the importance of using online sourcing techniques to find the best potential matches for my clients. Finding love in today’s day and age can be a challenge, so why not give yourself the best possible chance for success?
Looking for the best Phoenix matchmaker? If matchmaking if something you’re interested in, you’ll want to find a matchmaker who is locally based, someone who want waste your time and someone who understands the type of person you want to meet.
There’s More Competition
Unfortunately, more people means more competition. If you find someone you’re interested in, it can be hard to get excited since that person spoke with 6 to 12 other people.
This is also the downside of online dating. It’s hard to open up to someone when you aren’t sure how many people they are currently seeing and you’re unsure where you stand.
Phoenix Speed Dating
Not Enough Time to Get to Know Someone (if you’re interested)
If you meet someone who sparks your interest, it’s disappointing when you have to move along to the next person. A few minutes isn’t enough time to get to know someone, which means someone’s opinion of you can be based on superficial reasons rather than true chemistry and compatibility.
Is Speed Dating Right For You?
See how many you check off on this list:
- You haven’t gone on a date in a while, and want to practice to build up your confidence
- You want to meet as many people in the least amount of time as possible
- You’re burnt out with online dating and want to start meeting people face-to-face
- You’ve been neglecting your love life and want to start being more proactive
Tips – Get the Most Out of Your Phoenix Speed Dating Experience
- Be present
Whether or not you’re interested in someone, enjoy the experience for what it is. Don’t plan what you’re going to say beforehand. Conversations shouldn’t be forced (plus people will be able to tell if you have a rehearsed speech).
- Keep it light
You only have a few minutes to make a great first impression. Stay positive, avoid any serious subjects and don’t treat the interaction like an interview. Think of this as an opportunity to showcase the attractive parts of your personality. If you’re funny and playful, show off that side.
Speed dating is supposed to be fun! If you find someone attractive, don’t start fantasizing about your wedding and future kids’ names.
- Ask about their interests
Skip the surface-level small talk. It’s not enjoyable for anyone.
You want people to feel comfortable enough to open up to you. The fastest way to connect with someone is to get them talking about something they are knowledgeable and passionate about. Ironically, the key to being an excellent conversationalist is getting the other person to talk more so they feel heard and understood.
- Make sure your body language sends the right message
Do you know how to use body language on a date? Even if you’re nervous, you want to appear sexy and confident.
For example, if you are aren’t meeting his gaze and your arms are folded across your chest, you are sending the message that you’re closed off, unapproachable and worst of all, uninterested.
Men aren’t mind readers! Always be direct and remember actions speak louder than words.
- Relax!
Don’t let your nerves take over. Remember that the people you are meeting are probably just as uncomfortable and anxious as you are. Take a deep breath, relax and enjoy yourself. You’re a catch and have a lot to offer – don’t forget that!
Is Matchmaking Right for You?
- You’re socially comfortable and find it easy to meet new people
- You’re looking for a life partner – someone who shares your values and life goals
- You have a busy work schedule. From selection, screening and scheduling dates, you just want to show up and have fun.
- You won’t waste time and money with singles that have financial and mental issues.
Ready to get started? If you’re in the Phoenix area and looking to take your love life to the next level, contact me today for a consultation.
