Everybody likes to feel loved and appreciated for who they are. In an ideal world, we find this acceptance and unconditional love in the person we spend the rest of our lives with. Unfortunately, dating relationships can end with one partner feeling used and taken advantage of by the other. This is especially true of wealthy men who find themselves dating a dreaded gold digger. Do you know the Warning Signs You’re Dating a Gold Digger ?
I’ve been called the “Phoenix Millionaire Matchmaker” by clients who have approached me for help finding a real woman. After building a successful career and achieving many of their goals, these millionaires get burned one too many times by gold diggers: women who are only in it for the money, not the man. All these men really want is to find a feminine, smart, and sane woman they can love. As THE Phoenix Matchmaker, here are warning signs I’ve observed that mean your new girlfriend might be a gold digger:
She’s overly interested in what you do for a living.
It’s normal for questions about your career to come up early on in the relationship. After all, you are getting to know each other. What’s not normal is to date a girl who right off the bat wants to know every detail about how much money you make. Even if she doesn’t blatantly ask this question, she could be fishing for an answer with a myriad of more subtle questions like what car you drive, what kind of vacations you take, where you shop for clothes, and what your house is like.
She never pays for anything.
Culturally, it’s common for men to pick up the tab on date night. However, as your relationship progresses, a “normal” girl will at least offer to pay for her half of dinner or coffee instead of always assuming you’ll get it. Gold diggers will conveniently “leave their wallet at home” or disappear to the bathroom right as the check comes. From expensive concert tickets to the candy bar at the store, you won’t see her pay for anything.
She’s always in some kind of financial crisis.
Not only does the gold digger actively avoid paying for anything, she’s also highly likely to ask you for money. It’s typical for romantic partners to help each other out once in a while when they need it, but this usually doesn’t happen until they’ve been together quite a while. Gold diggers, however, will spin a tale of hardship and woe early on in a relationship, asking for money to help out with basic bills while continuing to freely spend cash on frivolous purchases that help them “keep up appearances.”
She has very expensive taste.
Most girls love being pampered and treated like a princess. Most men enjoy getting to be that “knight in shining armor” making her dreams come true. But gold diggers take this too far by expecting everything given to her to be top-of-the-line, designer, exclusive, and expensive. In fact, she will likely be offended if every date doesn’t include a huge bouquet, a ritzy dinner, and a sparkly token of your affection. Healthy relationships balance out the princess treatment by having picnic lunches, date night at home, and other less extravagant dates as well as expensive ones.
She doesn’t use “please” and “thank you.”
A gold digger only values material possessions in your relationship. She expects and does not appreciate the things you do get her without doing anything for you. Many times, she will be visibly disappointed and even angry if your gifts aren’t as extravagant as she feels she deserves. Even the mention of doing something less expensive once in a while is likely to elicit threats of ending the relationship. She honestly believes it’s her right to be treated like a princess, but she is unwilling to ever do anything generous in return for you.
If you are dating a gold digger, it’s time to end the relationship. She won’t change, and will never be the loving life partner you deserve. While at the beginning it feels good to be her hero, gold diggers will only continue to suck you dry emotionally and financially. You deserve better than that!
Warning Signs You’re Dating a Gold Digger
If you’re tired of striking out with gold diggers, I can be your dating coach and help you meet your true match. As the Phoenix Matchmaker in Phoenix, I carefully interview and screen every woman before she is introduced to one of my clients. Don’t let yourself be used again; let me help you find that fulfilling and drama-free relationship for you!