Why didn’t he call for a second date?
So, you thought the date went great? You seemed to have a real connection, or so you thought, but he never called you again? There could be many reasons why he didn’t call, but most likely, you did something that he didn’t like or appreciate. So, what might it have been?
As a Phoenix Matchmaker and Dating Coach, I’ve talked to dozens of men about why they were not interested in women after the first date. Every man is different but over the years, I’ve found common first date mistakes that many women make.
Look at these Common First Date Mistakes and see if you’re doing any of them. Just one will greatly reduce your chances of him calling again.
Don’t be late: Over 50% of women admit that they have showed up late for a first date. Some women actually believe that being tardy is fashionable and a typical way for a woman to behave. The truth is that showing up late is a clear message to the guy that he wasn’t worth it to be on time. If you do get stuck in traffic a quick call or text will help.
Don’t talk or text on your cell: Unless your grandmother has fallen down the stairs and needs immediate medical attention, do not take a personal call during your date. The same applies to texting, as taking out your phone and typing away during your date is rude. A man recently reported that his date texted the entire time during their drive. This made him feel that being with him was unimportant to her. He made the quick decision, that if he wasn’t important to her, she wasn’t important to him and there were no future dates.
Don’t be rude: In general, men do appreciate a challenge, but they still don’t want a woman who is mean. Don’t be condescending with the waiter or rude with the bartender. Engaging in petty activities like mocking the outfit, appearance or behavior of another person isn’t funny. Being courteous and showing respect is being classy.
Don’t mention future contact too soon: This is one of the tougher rules to follow. You could be discussing a book or a new restaurant in town, and casually mention that you should go to the restaurant together sometime or that you could loan him your copy of a certain book. The problem with that is that you are forcing him to make a snap decision on whether he may want to see you again before he even knows you. Leave the talk of a second meeting until later.
Look for Part 2 next blog!
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